I'll fear for you...there, now that we've got that out of the way,
you don't have to fear anymore, just let me know you want
me to fear for you, and I will,
simple, right? Nope, it just isn't that simple is it,
because you know,
only you can fear
like you fear, nobody else will.
Which is challenging to the people who want so
badly to convince you that fear is bad
thing. Understand, fear is not bad, nor good,
it is, an emotion, but it has some interesting
byproducts which those who want
to tell you not to fear, fail to note.
Remember how people always
seem to quote Franklin Roosevelt's famous words here:
"All we have to fear, is; fear itself." Well that's a tragically
misquoted statement. Oh, he made it, alright, but if you look
at the entire speech, and the circumstances we were in; trust
me,
F.D.R. knew only too well what fear would do to this country!And it did, and we mobilized as no other nation in human history
has ever mobilized; and, we haven't recovered from that experience
to this day- that's actually an unfortunate truth of the inheritance of
those changes, they changed America, and at least for the foreseeable
future, America is still reeling from those days. Now back to fear...
Fear is how you know that you are in a situation where the resultis going to be something beyond you.That's not necessarily bad, it is; just what it is, a result that you
couldn't possibly anticipate. But that doesn't mean bad, it can
mean, good, it can mean, you missed the whole deal, and your
feeling of fear was useless, there are literally three choices that
you get to make about any circumstance, you can---
Accept it
Deny it (Reject it)
Change itSo fear prepares you to "get after it," and in decision making
that can sometimes be a very good thing, you may need to,
maybe you need clear perception about an attack upon
your ability to make decisions? Maybe you need to get
into offensive mode to take on the people who are manufacturing
such stuff?
Fear also gets your body goin' - the Adrenal gland comes into
play and a very nice hormone, which is very powerful, called
Adrenaline, comes into play. This is the hormone where,
when a car was fixin' to fall on her baby, a mom just picked
it up! You have heard those sorts of stories, but the odd thing
is, they are true. Adrenaline is powerful; and, it can do bad
things to you if it isn't taken care of, which brings us back to
the unreal people who want you to buy into not fearing.
Seriously consider that you cannot; not fear, anymore than you
cannot, breathe air- it is nearly autonomic, and there is a reason
for that which has to do with one of the most powerful drives
that exist in a human, the drive to live.
Fear is attached at the hip to this drive, so,
it happens nearly automatically, notice
I did say nearly, because, we have the split second of choice,
which Steven Covey discusses in his master work "The 7 Habits
of Highly Effective People." In this masterwork Covey points
out that we aren't a product of our glands, we can and should
make a choice.
Will you let me take that one step up and say, yes
we do have a choice, but, we should be honest with ourselves
about fear, versus other emotions similar to fear?
Fear is more instantaneous, and therefore,
my sense is that while you might
be able to take a split second to really grasp
what is heading your way, you shouldn't struggle
to control it as the Bear charges at you!
See the illustration there?
It's not so much about control
as it is about understanding,
which occurs ahead of time.